Jealousy

Jealousy.  

It is considered by most people in our world to be a natural and healthy, certainly an inevitable, response to the wrongness of our lover loving another.  Even the idea that our love might being *thinking* about someone else is considered to be a righteous cause for jealousy, as well as its condoned emotional response:  anger.  

This is all a misunderstanding.  Widespread jealousy is as much a sign of wellbeing in our culture as it would be if 95 percent of our culture developed a full body rash.  What the...!?  What are we doing wrong?  

Its those dang things that we believe, that we have been told all our lives, about the nature of love which are causing this nasty rash, so to speak.  We feel jealous when we believe that someone else’s love relationship can threaten our own love relationship.  We feel especially jealous, when we worry that another person is, or will seem to our boyfriend(as an example), to be “better” than us.  The thing we are then taught to feel is usually anger.  We become righteous and pissed, and *sometimes* that seems to work!  Some people keep their partner’s other relationship activity in check for many years using this method of cohersion.  *whisper*:  It never alters his heart, though!  

There is also the sad/worry thing.  People express their worry and sadness at the thought of their partner loving another and *sometimes* he is effectively guilt-tripped into refraining from pursuing another love.  For some time.  You cannot tame his heart by this tactic!  If he is prone to guilt, as most are, he will be beating himself up, somewhere deep down, at least, for the rest of your relationship.  

The way out of the cycle of jealousy and control is through cleaning up the ideas you store in your head.  Get one of those high-pressure air-blowers that chases the dust out of your keyboard.  This should be sprayed into your ear.  *NO*  That was a joke!  

I suggest that you start by adding some new ideas in there.

Whichever of these seems most true to you would be a good place to start:

Love is Beautiful.

Fear is Boring.  

I am Awesome.  

From there you can add more true things that you notice.  Maybe:

Love is Worth Being Crazy About.

Fear Would Lead Me to Regrets.

I Am Becoming Even More Awesome.  

Once you notice your brain saying some things that you actually *believe*...because your heart vibrates with the truth of it... it will be easier to hold the new thoughts up for a contrast as the old thoughts try to blare through you.  More and more, you will be able to simply choose to act from the new thought.  This will get easier every day that you choose it.