Polyamory? For Teens?!!

Someone has climbed up the tallest roof in town and you are hearing them yell something very curious:  

“IT IS NATURAL, NORMAL, AND HEALTHY TO LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON!"

Polyamory is a fancy word (derived from latin and greek) which points to something very simple and true, yet which people often misunderstand. It breaks down to its own translation: poly = many and amory = love.  
I am writing from my heart about my experience of love and passion. The way that I experience these things is considered controversial by mainstream culture, and therefore, probably scary or weird for your parents or other adults in your life. I, myself, am a mother of four, and I have a personal sense of why our parents worry about their kids, desperately hoping they will make choices with their lives which bring them satisfaction and well-being, rather than pain or discomfort. However, my life has taught me in a thousand ways that what I have to share on this subject is important, and that it is time for me to share it with you.

Our world is steeped in a stubborn, confused mess. 

The major motion picture company of cartoon movies, and almost every book or blog you read is preaching misinformation about the nature of romantic love.

And almost every person who is in a romantic-love relationship has been, or is bound to be, struck by seemingly unresolvable internal conflict. It is this mistaken idea: When you are truly in love with someone they will be your everything, and you will be their everything and you will no longer desire to share that kind of love with anyone else.

We are told that if you do find yourself desiring connection with someone other than your partner, it is a sign that your current relationship is not right and was not meant to be, or worse, it is because you are just messed up. If your loved-one desires another, it is because you are not good enough for them, and because they never truly loved you in the first place. Or, it is because *they* are messed up and it is not fair to you that they are this way.

 

There is so much pain in our world because of these ideas. Many people believe them without ever questioning them – without even realizing that it is possible to love without the torment of jealousy. Many other people do have the inkling that that might be possible, yet their fear of being different, or of being judged negatively, prevents them from asking themselves questions which might lead them to unconventional answers.

There are also many brave people who are ready to accept that they will be judged harshly at times, and that they will be widely misunderstood and possibly even shunned by one or another group of people. This last bunch are finding that they can no longer do what they are "supposed" to do because they see that that isn't working and they hear their heart calling them to something that is more rich, complex and fulfilling than the "traditional" model of monogamous love.

This is a blog about the nature of romantic love and the forms of relationship that may unfold in your life when you are living your truth.